How Honoring My Energy and Values Reshaped the Way I Create, Connect, and Date

A reflection on shifting, discerning, and choosing relationships that align with who I am becoming

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I sit with pen in hand — or rather, iPencil and iPad. I tried going back to pen and paper the other day, thinking it might bring something fresh, but I realized I’m enjoying this new way of writing.

There’s something playful and low-pressure about it. Minimalistic. I get to experiment with different pen styles, colors, and templates. I prefer the dotted template because it gives some structure without the stress of writing within the lines.

I’m not great at that — never have been. Following directions? Not my thing. Especially on a day like today, when I’m not writing with any particular agenda. I’ve set a timer, and I’m letting it flow. Some days call for different strokes, different moods, different ways of being. I allow myself the freedom to change, evolve, and adapt to the energy.

Lately, I’ve been switching up my writing spaces too. I’ve been sitting at the kitchen island when typing, since it tends to flow better when seated at a tab…