The Moment I Knew I’d Changed as a Woman

Breaking the Cycle of Chasing Unavailable Men and Choosing Myself Instead

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I keep attracting the same circumstances and people into my life. It’s frustrating.

Haven’t I been here before? Haven’t I learned this lesson? But what if these repetitions aren’t setbacks? What if they’re opportunities?

A chance to wake up, to step outside the automatic programming and make even the smallest shift — because even a slight change can completely alter our trajectory.

Repeat, make a change, evolve or die. I wrote these words during my freewriting session this morning as I contemplated how I keep walking into the same experiences — maybe because I think it will be easy. It’s within my comfort zone. Less effort, right? But I don’t want the same results. I want something different.

We crave growth, but we resist change.

And when we stay stuck — doing the same things, making the same choices — we feel it. Stagnation. Monotony. A quiet sense of frustration, knowing deep down that we’re not really living. And that’s a slow death.

If you don’t evolve,…